A couple weeks ago I was nominated for the Liebster award by a charming guy from the UK named Pete. He runs a blog called boyslikeme. Now, I am not as actively involved in the WordPress community as I would like to be (let’s be honest, I am kinda shy); but, I’m so grateful to even be acknowledged for this kind of thing. For those of you who don’t know what the Liebster award is (to be quite honest I had no idea initially either), it’s an Internet award given to bloggers from other bloggers following similar principles to that of a chain letter. The word Liebster is of German origin meaning “dearest”, “sweetest” or “nicest”. The award nominations are passed along to help showcase relatively new bloggers. When I was nominated, I was at a point where I was feeling hopelessly undermined and lethargic in my writing and in this blog altogether. Although I am still coming out of a rut (a literary crisis, if you may) I am truly grateful for the unexpected and much appreciated acknowledgement from a mere stranger.
I recommend everyone to check out Pete’s blog, boyslikeme, which is written so honestly, covering hard-hitting issues like gay rights and discrimination with such passion, poignance and even playfulness. Thanks again for the nomination. 🙂
As the rules of the Liebster Award state:
1. Thank the person who nominated you and link to their blog.
2. Answer the 10 questions given to you by the nominee before you.
3. Nominate 10 of your favorite blogs with fewer than 200 followers and notify them of their nomination.
4. Come up with 10 questions for your nominees to answer.
Now right off the bat I just want to say that I haven’t entirely played fair in regards to the rules and I apologize in advance for that for the sake of tradition. Due to time constraints and other priorities in my life at this time, I really am not able to dedicate as much time as I’d like to updating my blog, reading other posts or discovering other emerging bloggers in the community. So to be blunt I don’t want to blindly choose 10 blogs at random to showcase when I haven’t truly gotten the chance to delve into the community and truly admire the talent and zeal for writing that I know is out there. And I would hope that someone would hold similar standards to my writing as well if they are acknowledging my blog in a similar fashion. I have, however, taken the liberty to answer the questions given to me along with my nomination:
1. What are you most scared of?
I think I’m most scared, as a citizen, of the inevitable progressive separation occurring within our society. There are so many different facets to life these days and with our constant reintroduction to new technologies, we continue to grow farther and farther apart from one another. The younger generations as well are coming to be more self-serving and entitled and I’m just scared that if we all continue down this path, eventually we won’t even be able to communicate with each other and even function outside of our own man-made technologies. No wonder we all feel so alone.
2. What do you like most about yourself?
I admire my own persistence most I think. Even if I can’t do something right off the bat I know that eventually I will come back to it and have the gumption to move forward. As a kid I attended martial arts classes and one of the tenets of Tae-kwon-do is persistence which they often refer to as an “Indomitable Spirit”. I always loved the way that sounded when we’d collectively read it off the wall together in class.
3. What is your earliest memory?
My earliest memories are a bit of a blur just because there are so many clouded together with one special person in particular. I met my best friend Jenna when we were just 4 years old in junior kindergarten. I was playing alone with some blocks at school and remember even then feeling so small and anxious to meet the other kids. That is until Jenna came up to me and simply asked, “Hey, do you want to play?” and from that moment on we were inseparable. I still see my best friend regularly and we are as close as ever. We recently worked on an audio documentary together showcasing my experiences coming out and dealing with the backlash of being gay in a Catholic high school.
4. Will you tell me a secret?
I’m surprisingly ambivalent. Although I am and may seem very simplistic to the people in my day-to-day life, I’m also a very, very complex individual. There is always a constant flow of creative energy within me and despite my reserved nature I am actually kind of wild. Haha.
5. If you could transport yourself to any point in history when would it be and who would you be?
Omitting the obvious issue of being gay in this time period, I’d love to be the average citizen in the late 1940s into the 1950s. I’m a huge fan of film noir and crime fiction. After the end of World War II everything was so proper yet eerily mysterious. It seemed like everyone had a secret to hide and a story to tell. Not to mention the music, fashion and culture of the time is all so elegant. I wish everyone dressed up formally like they did in the 1950s.
6. How similar are you now to who you were as a child?
I’ve always been an idealist and struggled with perfectionism. I feel like they’re huge strengths but if you don’t channel them well then they can easily seep up on you and make your life so miserable, haha. A lot of great writers though speak about the loss of innocence and imply that we all need to shed our ideals to become functional adults to thrive in our cruel society. I understand the rationale behind that because as we get older, our priorities change and if we don’t choose to remain self-aware then our thoughts and our realities inevitably go on autopilot. But I’d like to believe that we can still be idealistic and hopeful and able and willing to make the world a better place. I think I’ll always be an idealistic boy at heart.
7. Who do you most admire in the world and why?
I most admire my Aunt (and Godmother) Cathy who sadly passed away from a form of breast cancer on March 29, 2012. She was always secretly my hero as a child – she was warm and gracious and had such a way with children and with people in general. I always thought, apart from my own mother of course, that she was the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. Cathy had that air about her. She was always so charitable and kind hearted but could firmly and assertively stand up for herself or for those she cared about when need be. When I came out and was struggling with my sexuality along with the anxiety and depression I had developed as a young teen, she always made a point to continue to include me in family events and speak to me void of any judgment. I will always be grateful to her for that and for everything she’s done for me. Even when things got dire and she was fighting for her life, she always remained positive and hopeful despite the odds. I most admire her beauty and strength and hope to one day be able to channel half of what she was able to do in the face of her adversity.
8. Do you think there is anything out there? Aliens..God..?
There are definitely aliens and other life forms out there. Anything unknown or unheard of to us is obviously going to seem a little far-fetched. And collectively as a species, we’ve all been conditioned to reject the things we don’t understand in order to protect our own sense of security in an uncertain world. We once believed that the world was flat and now look at us, we have continued to evolve beyond our own understanding. Not everything is in our immediate realm of comprehension. The universe is so vast and diverse that it is all encompassing and often paradoxical (making everything easy to argue). There are always new discoveries to be made and I feel like, just as a photograph cannot do a person or place justice, our own human comprehension too is very limiting and we cannot necessarily see the entire picture through our own set of laws because the universe isn’t governed by the standards and the rules that we have all come to live by and take as “fact”.
9. What new skill/ability would you like to learn?
I would love to learn more about music. I have a few friends who are just natural born virtuosos and who all love to put on a good show. I’d love to tap more into vocals and even learn some chords on a guitar and just play around with my writing set to some music. My mind is just filled to the brim with potential ideas for songs. Writing and recording my own album is definitely something on my bucket list.
10. If you could be instantly fluent in any language which would it be and why?
Je voudrais pouvoir parler courrament en francais. But seriously, I think French is the most romantic sounding language ever. It was always love at first sound.
I would, however, like to reference and (unofficially nominate?) one of my good friends, Erin, at this time. She runs a blog called The Cinnamon House. She’s recently turned vegetarian and is always coming up with creative, healthy (and delicious!) recipes and sharing them selflessly with everyone in the WordPress community. I’m planning on trying out some of her recipe ideas this week.
I’m going to leave this post slightly open-ended because I would like to take the time to acknowledge more bloggers in the community, but as aforementioned, I just don’t think it’s going to be an easy task at this point in time. If and when I can get around to fulfilling the nominations I will also post along with them some questions. If you stuck around to read this, 1, I commend you and I hope you enjoyed getting to know me a little better. Thanks again for your understanding and support.