Life Advice

We CREATE our OWN realities with the thoughts we CHOOSE to have about the world.

I just want to talk to the few of you that bother to stumble upon this post and read it. First of all, you do NOT owe the world ANYTHING. And you don’t have to own the labels and expectations that society puts on you to be a certain way either. These labels only have power if YOU give them the power to affect you and your life. Whoever tries to label you or make sense of you or justify why you do what you do is just insecure with themselves and feels the need to judge everything at face value because they’re trying to project their own fears and insecurities on you. You cannot be defined because you are so beautifully complex and unique and imperfect; you are the essence of light and love at your core. You are NOT defined by your weight, your height, your age, your sexuality or your preferences or ANY of that.

You also don’t have to own up to others’ expectations of you. This is YOUR life and only YOU choose how to live it. Oftentimes, people we care about or even people we don’t care about are so quick to add in their two cents as if they’re doing us a huge service. In my case, it usually revolves around school and what comes next in terms of what society expects of me – go to college or university and then get a real job. They use fear and doubt and guilt tactics to manipulate you into thinking that you should want the same things that they want. In my case, guys think they can just snap their fingers and instantly hook up with me because they don’t value themselves. And when people don’t get their way, they’re quick to call you out on your faults and make you feel like you’re the bad person.

Let’s be clear about one thing – YOU are NOT a bad person. There is actually NO such thing as “good” and “bad”. It’s all conditional and subjective. Take this scenario for instance: a man steals from a local supermarket. Does that make him a bad person? Maybe so in the eyes of his peers. But what they may not know is that he cannot find work and is just providing for his family because he has no other choice. Everything is conditional and the universe is infinitely connected. But at the end of the day, everyone has their redeemable qualities no matter how hidden they may seem to us. We are all the same at the core of who we are.

You are NOT a bad person for making your own decisions and refusing to accept the norm of society and the blame for other people’s insecurities. Again, you are not in debt to anyone. You do not have to prove anything to anyone or justify why you’re doing what you’re doing. You belong to everyone and you belong to no one. Simply because you just are.



About humblefoot

Kyle Fisher (who often uses the alias Logan Rowley online and in his writing) has been enjoying writing since he was just 8 years old. His first formal publication was at the age of 13. He is now a spiritualist and openly queer author, perpetually searching for inspiration to create and learn more about the world around him. He is always drawn to the simplicity and uniqueness that life has to offer. He doesn’t identify with labels or socially constructed ideas about how the world should be. He believes that the world is your oyster, and that we all project our own destinies with the thoughts we choose to harbour about the universe. He is an idealistic, spiritualistic hippie who is just trying to find his place in this world, crafting each word to leave his mark, and promote love and equality among all people.
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2 Responses to Life Advice

  1. Meg says:

    This was an unexpected yet nice read for my evening. Thanks for sharing : )

    • humblefoot says:

      Anytime. I feel like with all of the information we’re constantly bombarded with we forget that we are worthwhile people. It’s always empowering to remind people. I’m glad you enjoyed it. 🙂

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